Not my best vacation.

"Chariotoflove" (chariotoflove)
11/24/2019 at 23:16 • Filed to: Life and death

My daughter and I drove to Indy for thanksgiving over yesterday and today. We like to stay in West Memphis halfway. We rolled into Indy tonight. That’s when they told me Mom died last night.

She has been having health problems that I won’t detail now, but I figured we would have at least one more happy Christmas. She crashed unexpectedly at home and died with my dad, sister, and one of my brothers there. I wish I had been there to say goodbye, but I’m grateful she was as home with the others and not in a hospital.

Meeting at the funeral home tomorrow. I’m gonna drink for a bit and go to bed. I just felt the need to tap this out. It still hasn’t sunk in. Mom was the most amazing person I ever knew. The world is poorer for having lost her.

Forgive me if I don’t reply to comments like usual. I’ll come back and read sooner or later. Good night

DISCUSSION (35)

CB > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:35

Fuck dude, I’m sorry for your loss. Take care, okay? We’re here if you need anything.

Future Heap Owner > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:39

I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope being able to process it with family helps. We’ll be here when you get back.

dumpsterfire! > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:41

Damn . Sorry for you and your family.

AestheticsInMotion > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:44

I'm so sorry. We’re all here to help in whatever capacity we can.

Nom De Plume > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:47

Condolences for your loss. My thoughts are with your family.

facw > Chariotoflove
11/24/2019 at 23:50

Sorry to hear it. I’m no good with this stuff, so I don’t have any advice, but you have my sympathy.

wafflesnfalafel > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 00:10

condolences... She wouldn’t want you in pain, but understand it stings like a MF. Hope your dad is doing ok. I hear Zoidberg has some White Claw...

ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 00:31

I’m so sorry to hear this. You and your family have my condolences, and I’m always here for anything that I can offer.

bob and john > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 01:55

Oh no...

Take the time you need. Oppo will be here if you need us.

pip bip - choose Corrour > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 02:27

my condolences to you and your family on your loss.

DutchieDC2R > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 03:51

Sorry for your loss...

Distraxi's idea of perfection is a Jagroen > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 04:04

Condolences. Kia ka ha, brother - stay strong.

TheRealBicycleBuck > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 06:06

So sorry to hear this. Thanksgiving was my mom’s holiday. Christmas was always with the in-laws. That’s made thanksgiving particularly hard the last couple of years. The last time she was somewhat healthy/mobile was our last thanksgiving together.

I wish the best to you and yours. May you find peace in your time of sorrow.

RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 06:22

Oh mate, so sorry to hear this....my sincere sympathies to you and yours. I am sure your mother knew how much you loved her.

Sovande > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 06:55

So rry for your loss.

Captain of the Enterprise > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 06:57

Im so sorry for your loss.

shop-teacher > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 07:12

I’ m so sorry for your loss. The situation around m y mom’s passing had some similarities. Try not to let the what-if- I’s eat you too badly.

Manny05x > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 07:36

So sorry for your loss.

ST80MND > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 08:50

My heart felt condolences. My Ma-in-law just passed about 7 months ago, and the legal battle over the estate just in the last month ended. I didn’t reach out to anyone for support, and I’m sure I will suffer for years because of it. Don’t be like me and just hole up and push away people. Know that you are not going through this alone, and there are people who care (oppo) and people that got your back (oppo). You don’t need to process this alone.

JustAnotherG6 > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 09:06

My condolences as well. I lost my mom 3 years ago this past October.

Brickman > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 09:15

it’s even harder to lose someone during the holidays. Don’ t mourn for their loss, but celebrate her life. Something like that, I just woke up.

I did that when my mother passed away. Dont be sad, why this had to happen to me, etc, but celebrate their life, the best moments, stuff she did, etc.. now im making myself cry.

just-a-scratch > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 10:11

S ad n ews. I am sorry for your loss and hope you and your family a re doing OK.

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 20:21

I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t know what else to say, I would be devastated if my mom died.

QCGoose > Chariotoflove
11/25/2019 at 20:26

I'm so sorry man. You'll be in my thoughts tonight.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 13:38

I’m very sorry for your loss...

Chariotoflove > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
12/12/2019 at 13:42

Thanks pal.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 13:50

Glad to read in your recent post that you’ve been able to spend a lot of time with family to help with the healing. Hope you get more of that later this month. My parents are in their ‘80s, too, so time with them is definitely getting more and more precious. I nearly lost my mom when I was in high school, and nearly lost my dad several years ago to a blood clot, but thankfully they’re both doing pretty well right now.

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Also, in relation to your recent post:

My youngest son doesn’t like chocolate.
My daughter doesn’t like mint.
My wife doesn’t like mint chocolate.

I don’t understand these people.

Chariotoflove > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
12/12/2019 at 14:05

I was about to feel bad for you, and then I realized that means you get it all to yourself. Just like when we used to drink Dad’s ginger ale as kids, so he started buying himself tonic water, which he likes but no normal kid does.

My dad has the worst of it. They were married for 53 years. My sister lives near and spent a lot of time with Mom. She’s having a tough time, and we text and talk. I’m down here in Texas, and it’s both blessing and curse to have the distance. I’m looking forward to driving back up there in a couple of weeks. In the meantime, I have a 13 year old whose life rages on and reminds me that living is a boisterous, fast moving thing. That’s good.

My parents almost lost me at age 20, and I dodged another bullet when they caught the kidney cancer in me early 8 years back. I’m grateful not only to be alive for myself, but really now for them, because now that I have a daughter, I realize the truth that losing a child is the worst thing that could ever happen to a person. Thank God they were spared that.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 14:12

I remember feeling so sad for my Grandpa when my Grandma passed away... I can’t imagine life without my wife after 20 years, much less life without someone you’ve spent almost every day of 50 years of your life with.

I’m very thankful for that, too - both for you and for them.

Our family has been very fortunate (other than old age, I’ve only lost one cousin early), but it will visit us all eventually. Dust to dust...

Chariotoflove > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
12/12/2019 at 14:45

One of my cousins went a couple of years ago from cancer. Other than that, we’d been seeing family more at funerals than weddings as all the uncles and aunts aged up. At the last funeral, we decided that we wanted to get together for a happy reason rather than a sad one to break the chain. That’s what motivated the family reunion last summer for Mom’s birthday.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 14:55

That’s great that she got to have that time for her 80th. On my dad’s side, we’re really good about getting together every 3 years, regardless. He’s the youngest, so most of his brothers have passed on now (down to one brother and one sister). On my Mom’s side, we see some of them every year at Thanksgiving, but we need to get more intentional about a regular get-together that’s not during a holiday (always a challenge).

Chariotoflove > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
12/12/2019 at 15:13

My family moved to Indy when I was young. Everybody else lives back in New England, so it takes effort. Worth it, but yes, a challenge.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 15:25

Yeah, we’re spread all over. I’ve not once regretted the time/money/effort I’ve made to get together with family - my parents did a great job of instilling that in me, and I hope that I’m doing the same with my kids.

Chariotoflove > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
12/12/2019 at 15:28

We’re doing the same. My daughter’s cousins are in Indy while we’re in Texas. They’re the three musketeers together, and they keep in touch by text and all. We are committed to keeping the family connected, but it means we do a lot of traveling. It’s worth it.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > Chariotoflove
12/12/2019 at 16:34

Sorry to hear that... my condolences. Just came across this due to your M&M post.